Die Hard (1988) Directed by John McTernian.
There’s literally a direct parallel between 1x20 and 3x22 — in both situations Stefan is faced with the possibility of watching somebody he cares about die. They make their choices (both Damon and Elena choose to die) and Stefan is left with the choice of either respecting their decisions or choosing for them.
In 1864 he ignored Damon’s choice to die and chose to save him anyway, forced him to feed on a human because he couldn’t live without his brother. Regardless of his intentions, it was selfish. He learnt his lesson when, instead of riding off into the sunset with his big brother, he’s practically disowned and punished for his selfishness with an ‘eternity of misery’.
Almost 150 years later, Elena is dying and she doesn’t want to be saved. She wants to die; she’d rather die knowing Matt lived than live to see somebody else she cares about die. This time Stefan chooses to respect her decision — he lets her die. This decision was selfless; he has nothing to gain from it. Elena won’t pat him on the back for it, she won’t love him more: she’s dead. But it’s what she wants. He didn’t want her to die, but if he’d saved her it would be as if he’d learnt nothing: she would’ve been angry with him (much like she was when she confronted Damon about it after her transition; much like Damon was when he confronted Stefan after their transition) for not respecting her choice.
"A tragic backstory explains a character’s actions but does not justify them."
It is such a simple concept, and yet it seems so hard for people to grasp.
Damon and Stefan have both been through unspeakable ordeals and had hard lives. They’ve hurt and betrayed one another. They’ve said…
"Damon, I love you and these people tortured you for five years, whatever you had to do, I don’t care"
who is this girl
Movies touch our hearts and awaken our vision, and change the way we see things. They take us to other places, they open doors and minds. Movies are the memories of our lifetime, we need to keep them alive.”
He called out a name. It was not mine.
”Do you know why I was even on that bridge? I was coming back for you Stefan. I had to choose, and I picked you - because I love you. No matter what happens,
it’s the best choice I’ve ever made.”